When we start looking for a long-term partner or enter into a romantic relationship, many of us do so with a predetermined set of (often unrealistic) expectations—such as how the person should look and behave, how the relationship should progress, and the roles each partner should fulfill.
But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy. Fact: Love is rarely static, but that doesn’t mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time.As we age, both men and women have fewer sexual hormones, but emotion often influences passion more than hormones, and sexual passion can become stronger over time.Or maybe you're not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don't feel confident enough.Whatever the case may be, you can overcome your obstacles and find a healthy romantic relationship.Despite the stigma in some social circles that accompanies being single, it’s important not to enter a relationship just to “fit in.” Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing.
And nothing is as unhealthy and dispiriting as being in a bad relationship.Myth: If I don’t feel an instant attraction to someone, it’s not a relationship worth pursuing.Fact: This is an important myth to dispel, especially if you have a history of making inappropriate choices.Myth: I didn’t feel close to my parents, so intimacy is always going to be uncomfortable for me.Fact: It’s never too late to change any pattern of behavior.Retaining many of these unrealistic expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate and any new relationship feel disappointing. Even if certain traits seem crucially important at first, over time you'll often find that you've been needlessly limiting your choices.