For some divorced people who have barely made it to the side and are clinging to the steps, they do NOT want a new relationship. No way are they ready to leave the safety of the steps in a world of relationships where emotionally you can’t touch bottom and can’t catch your breath.But for others, they can’t wait to get back into the action. We feel unloved, ugly, old, undesirable, and we just want to feel good about ourselves gain.We want to be with someone; we want love, affection, affirmation, and security—God hard-wired us for those good things.
As I have gotten older, I have loved dating divorced men with kids because it has taken the pressure off of me to have children with them.
I have also learned that men with kids love much more deeply. For all you single Mom readers, I think dating divorced men with children is a huge plus.
To get back in the deep and survive, she’ll need to develop some stronger swimming skills.
This is a good image of two dynamics that often happen after divorce: some don’t have enough sense and want to jump right back in, and others want to get out of the pool altogether—too afraid to ever go in again.
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I have witnessed this many times and men have openly shared with me that they would love to be married again one day and “make it right this time.” I have dated divorced men who have acknowledged that they spent a great deal of time building their businesses during their marriages and they wish they had been more romantic or listened more or had brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their spouses. There are many divorced men out there who have taken the time to work on themselves and their mistakes after their marriage ended and have a new-found commitment to making things right the next time around.
Ladies, as much as we love men (and, I really do), we want to acknowledge that they can often mature, grow up and find their way in a relationship a bit more slowly than women do.
I have many single girlfriends who share this choice and many who chose marriage, had children and got divorced.
I have found that dating divorced men with children to be an amazing experience for myself, as well as my friends and clients who are now single women with children of their own.
But try to drag her away into the scary deep waters where she can't touch bottom and you invite pure panic!